{"id":507,"date":"2022-10-17T08:29:41","date_gmt":"2022-10-17T08:29:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/olicentar.rs\/?post_type=koristan_sadr_aj&#038;p=507"},"modified":"2022-10-17T08:31:38","modified_gmt":"2022-10-17T08:31:38","slug":"tolerancija-na-ambivalenciju-usmerivac-psihe-i-sposobnost-za-ljubav%ef%bf%bc","status":"publish","type":"koristan_sadr_aj","link":"https:\/\/olicentar.rs\/en\/koristan_sadr_aj\/tolerancija-na-ambivalenciju-usmerivac-psihe-i-sposobnost-za-ljubav%ef%bf%bc\/","title":{"rendered":"Tolerancija na ambivalenciju-usmeriva\u010d psihe \u2013 i sposobnost za ljubav"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Podsetimo se&nbsp;<strong>\u2013 osnovna dilema ambivelncije je: \u017eiveti na svoj ili na tu\u0111 ra\u010dun. Ili, drugim re\u010dima, odabrati put separacije i individuacije ili put simbioze i parazitiranja.<\/strong>&nbsp;Prevazila\u017eenje ambivalencije daje smer psihi (zato toleranciju na ambivalenciju i zovemo \u201cusmeriva\u010d psihe\u201d). U sukobu izme\u0111u libida i agresije, pozitivnih i negativnih emocija prema istom objektu, osoba je rastrzana izme\u0111u opre\u010dnih impulsa. U\u010de\u0107i da toleri\u0161e tu rastrzanost, bez kori\u0161\u0107enja skupih odbrambenih mehanizama koji su iskrivljivanje stvarnosti, \u010dovek dolazi do mogu\u0107nosti da \u201eprelomi\u201c, da razre\u0161i ambivalenciju i opredeli se, donese odluku, uprkos postojanju \u201edruge strane medalje\u201c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kada smo govorili o odbrambenim mehnizmima vezanim za ambivalenciju naveli smo one koji bazi\u010dno po\u010divaju na splitingu (cepanju) i projekciji, one koji se zasnivaju na potiskivanju, i dva mehanizma koji se ne navode u literaturi, ali ih \u010desto sre\u0107emo u praksi: mehanizam povr\u0161nosti i mehanizam \u201enerazmi\u0161ljanja\u201c. Podsetimo se tih mehanizama ukratko, da bismo razjasnili uticaj njihovog kori\u0161\u0107enja na sposobnost za zrelu ljubav:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M<strong>ehanizmi koji po\u010divaju na cepanju i projekciji \u2013&nbsp;<\/strong>kod ovih mehanizama, zapravo, nema tolerancije na ambivalenciju jer nema do\u017eivljaja celovitosti objekta. Objekt se cepa na \u201edobar\u201c i \u201elo\u0161\u201c, i tako se izbegava sukob opre\u010dnih emocija prema istoj osobi. U te mehanizme spadaju:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u2013<\/em><strong>Mehanizam \u201edva u jedan\u201c<\/strong>-u isto vreme, u istoj aktivnosti, opre\u010dna ose\u0107anja prema istom objektu (osobi, aktivnosti) koegzistiraju jedna do drugih, bez ikakve indikacije koflikta: radim, ali tako da poni\u0161tim ono \u0161to radim. Zagrlim nekoga tako \u010dvrsto da ga ugu\u0161im. Ovaj mehanizam ukazuje na nedostatak celovitosti objekta, jer nema indikacije konflikta, sukoba opre\u010dnih emocija. Tek sa do\u017eivljajem celovitosti objekta postoji svesnost da imamo opre\u010dne emocije prema istoj osobi. U ljubavnom odnosu&nbsp;<strong>osobe sa ovakvom odbranom i ne prime\u0107uju da povre\u0111uju one koje vole.&nbsp;<\/strong>Ne postoji svesnost da ima agresije u na\u010dinu ispoljavanja ljubavi. Nema ose\u0107anja krivice. U bla\u017eem obliku mo\u017eemo videti taj mehanizam, na primer, kada neko tepa bebi i izra\u017eava ljubav, a u isto vreme ste\u017ee zube (mada tu ve\u0107 postoji potisivanje agresije), ili kada vas neko u\u0161tine da zaboli, a \u017eeli da vam poka\u017ee kako misli da ste \u201eslatki\u201c. Odrasle osobe sa ovim mehanizmom \u0107e se \u010duditi ako im partner uka\u017ee da u njegovoj ljubavi ima agresivnosti i, uglavnom, optu\u017eiti partnera da \u201eizmi\u0161lja\u201c ili da ne razume njegove emocije. Ukazivanje na ovaj mehanizam \u201eudara u zid\u201c \u2013 nailazi na odgovor da to nije ta\u010dno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2013<strong>Temporalni spliting (cepanje u vremenu)&nbsp;<\/strong>\u2013 suprotna ose\u0107anja su podeljena u vremenu: \u201cjedan dan volim, drugi dan mrzim, jedan dan radim, drugi dan zabu\u0161avam ili pokvarim to \u0161to sam uradio\u201d. Ovaj mehanizam je ne\u0161to zreliji. Postoji do\u017eivljaj konflikta izme\u0111u opre\u010dnih emocija, ali se on izbegava cepanjem u vremenu. U ljubavnom \u017eivotu su to partneri sa kojima nikada ne znate \u201ena koju nogu su ustali\u201c, da li je danas dan kada vas vole ili dan kada vas mrze. \u010cesto partneri ovakvih osoba prime\u0107uju neke pravilnosti u njihovoj smeni emocija. Oni kao da \u201emoraju da mrze da bi mogli da vole\u201c. Obi\u010dno, nakon nekoliko dana idile, dolazi nekoliko dana mr\u017enje. Do\u017eivljaj druge strane je hroni\u010dna napetost oko toga kada \u0107e do\u0107i do smene emocija:&nbsp;<em>\u201eUvek mi, nakon perioda kada smo u idili\u010dnom odnosu, zabode no\u017e u le\u0111a\u2026kao da sve zaboravi i poludi zbog neke sitnice\u2026i ja ostajem u \u010dudu zbog te nagle promene ni zbog \u010dega. Prosto se pla\u0161im dobrih dana, jer znam da posle njih dolazi u\u017eas. \u0160to nam je bilo lep\u0161e u dobrim danima, bude u\u017easnije u lo\u0161im danima. Sve je nekako crno belo\u2026kao da sam an\u0111eo u jednom periodu, a \u0111avo u drugom\u2026\u201c<\/em>, opisuje jedan klijent odnos sa svojom suprugom. Deca ovakvih roditelja na sli\u010dan na\u010din opisuju svoje iskustvo:&nbsp;<em>\u201eume da bude divna, a ume da bude odvratna\u2026nikad ne zna\u0161 kakva \u0107e da bude. Ne znam kako da se pona\u0161am. Stalno sam u nekom strahu da ne\u0161to ne pogre\u0161im, a ne znam \u0161ta\u2026kao da to ne zavisi od mene, ve\u0107 od ne\u010dega u njoj \u0161to se samo preokrene. Stalno sam napet koja ona \u0107e se pojaviti\u2026\u201c.<\/em>&nbsp;U zrelijoj varijanti, ovaj mehanizam cepanja u vremenu se mo\u017ee produ\u017eiti na razvojne periode deteta. Kada je dete malo i zavisno, majka je veoma tolerantna i ne\u017ena, ali, ulaskom deteta u tinejd\u017eerski period, kada po\u010dinje separacija, odnos se drasti\u010dno menja. Majka kao da postaje druga osoba. Zapravo, kada je dete malo, majka koristi mehanizam pomeranja agresije sa deteta na neku drugu osobu (naj\u010de\u0161\u0107e na supruga, ili svekrvu). Sa ula\u017eenjem u tinejd\u017eerski uzrast i dete koje se odvaja i nije vi\u0161e pod punom maj\u010dinom za\u0161titom i kontrolom postaje \u201esli\u010dno ocu\u201c ili \u201enjegovima\u201c, postaje \u201epljunuti otac\u201c ili \u201ebaba\/deda\u201c\u2026i kre\u0107e temporalni spliting, oscilacije ose\u0107anja prema detetu. I kod kori\u0161\u0107enja ovog mehanizma suo\u010davanje ne daje rezultate. Partneri ili deca se \u010desto \u017eale na do\u017eivljaj da je to kao da pri\u010date zidu, da nema sposobnosti uvi\u0111anja. Naprotiv, onaj koji suo\u010dava postaje kriv, postaje progonitelj. Ako vi\u0161e \u010dlanova porodice suo\u010di osobu sa takvim pona\u0161anjem, onda su \u201esvi protiv nje\u201c, udru\u017eili su se u zaveri, priklonili jednoj strani\u2026deca su \u201ezavedena\u201c od partnera, pa zato govore takve stvari.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2013<strong>\u201eDefanzivni spliting\u201c&nbsp;<\/strong>\u2013 projekcija jedne strane ambivalencije na tre\u0107u osobu. Osoba se od ambivalencije prema nekom svom va\u017enom objektu brani tako \u0161to jednu stranu ambivalentnih emocija projektuje \u2013 pomera na tre\u0107u osobu. Kod ovakvog na\u010dina odbrane od ambivalencije, u ljubavnim odnosima, ni jedna osoba ne dobija realna ose\u0107anja, ono \u0161to zaslu\u017euje. Ako se pomeraju pozitivna ose\u0107anja, partner dobija ono najgore, a pozitivne emocije koje su deo ambivalencije prema njemu dobije neko drugi. Ako se pomeraju negativna, onda osoba koja je predmet ambivalencije dobija nerealno pozitivne emocije, a njegove \u201egrehe\u201c (mane) ispa\u0161ta neko drugi na kojega su pomerene. \u010cesto u bra\u010dnim odnosima ili du\u017eim vezama \u010dujemo izjave kao \u0161to su:&nbsp;<em>\u201eSad si sa majkom dobar, ona ti je super, a sve negativno \u0161to ose\u0107a\u0161 prema njoj si usmerio na mene\u2026ja ispa\u0161tam njene grehe\u2026\u201c<\/em>, ili&nbsp;<em>\u201eod kada mu je umrla majka, mnogo je bolji prema meni\u2026kao da kad je sa njom dobar, ja ne valjam, a kada je samnom dobar, ona ne valja\u2026\u201c.<\/em>&nbsp;Ovaka na\u010din odno\u0161enja sa ambivalencijom tako\u0111e onemogu\u0107ava sposobnost za zrelu ljubav, kao i svi odbrambeni mehanizmi koji se baziraju na primitivnim mehanizmima odbrane (splitingu i projekciji). \u010cesto se javlja u kombinaciji sa cepanjem u vremenu, ali se tada cepanje odvija u du\u017eim vremenskim intervalima \u2013 fazama kada je objekt dobar (a neko drugi lo\u0161 umesto njega) koje smenjuju faze kada je objekt lo\u0161, a neko drugi dobar umesto njega. Defanzivni spliting je zreliji od temporalnog splitinga, stvara manje svakodnevnog haosa i ne dovodi do tako \u010destih smena ambivalentnih emocija u ljubavnim odnosima, ali tako\u0111e \u010dini odnose nerealnima.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M<strong>ehanizmi koji po\u010divaju na potiskivanju<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Zreliji mehanizmi odbrane kojima se poku\u0161ava razre\u0161iti<\/strong>&nbsp;konflikt ambivalencije&nbsp;<strong>sastoje se od potiskivanja jedne komponente polarnosti i reaktivnog poja\u010davanja druge komponente.&nbsp;<\/strong>Kada se potiskujunegativne emocije, to se \u010desto&nbsp;<strong>ispoljava kao preterana briga za sigurnost i dobrobit voljene osobe.&nbsp;<\/strong>U ljubavnim odnosima takvi partneri umeju da budu bri\u017eni dave\u017ei, da ugu\u0161e pa\u017enjom i brigom (\u0161to ukazuje na potisnutu negativnu stranu ambivalencije). Kao roditelji, tako\u0111e, umeju da budu toliko po\u017ertvovani i uslu\u017eni, da onemogu\u0107avaju odvajanje dece i \u010dine da se deca ose\u0107aju kao da \u201eodrastaju pod staklenim zvonom\u201d. Ta pojava nam je dobro poznata iz analize opsesivnih osoba. Tako\u0111e se \u010desto mo\u017ee na\u0107i kod dece koja poku\u0161avaju da iza\u0111u na kraj sa intenzivnim \u017eeljama za smr\u0107u roditelja (obi\u010dno majke) od kojih su zavisna i koje vole i pla\u0161e se da ih mogu izgubiti. Kod takve dece su pona\u0161anja&nbsp;<strong>ka\u010denja za roditelje i te\u0161ko\u0107e odvajanja<\/strong>&nbsp;od omnipotentno ugro\u017eenog roditelja&nbsp;<strong>\u010desto vezana uz reaktivnu brigu za objekt.&nbsp;<\/strong>Kod mehanizama odbrane koji koriste potiskivanje postoji odre\u0111eni stepen razvijenosti tolerancije na ambivlenciju. Osoba koja ih koristi ne cepa do\u017eivljaj drugoga na delove i ima odnos prema celovitom objektu, ali ne uspeva da u punom intenzitetu ostane svesna opre\u010dnih emocija, niti da razre\u0161i ambivalenciju opredeljivanjem, ve\u0107 re\u0161ava problem potiskivanjem jedne strane ambivalentnih emocija i reaktivnim poja\u010davanjem druge strane. Potiskivanje, za razliku od cepanja, ne stvara crno-belu stvarnost. Objekt ostaje ceo, samo je jedna od njegovih \u201eboja\u201d nagla\u0161enija, a drugoj je umanjen intenzitet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kod potiskivanja pozitivne strane i reaktivnog isticanja negativne osoba ostaje vezana za partnera, ali joj je te\u0161ko da prihvati njegove pozitivne osobine:&nbsp;<em>\u201eVolim ga, ali je on te\u0161ka osoba, nezadovoljna sam u vezi sa njim\u2026jer me stalno ignori\u0161e i ni\u0161ta ne daje\u2026\u201d<\/em>. Vrlo \u010desto ovaj mehanizam koriste osobe koje ose\u0107aju zavisnost u odnosu na partnera, ali im je te\u0161ko da priznaju sopstvenu zavisnost. \u0160to su vi\u0161e zavisne, sve su agrsivnije prema partneru, on im sve vi\u0161e ne valja, i kre\u0107u u obezvre\u0111ivanje svega \u0161to partner \u010dini, njegovih sposobnosti, doprinosa porodici. Naj\u010de\u0161\u0107e ga sre\u0107emo kod \u017eena koje ne rade, ili nemaju posao kakav \u017eele, a prema partnerima koji su sposobni, uspe\u0161ni i, na izvestan na\u010din, popustljivi (dopu\u0161taju odre\u0111eno devaluiranje, naj\u010de\u0161\u0107e iz ose\u0107anja krivice zbog odsutnosti, ili tretiraju partnerku kao dete:&nbsp;<em>\u201esve \u017eene su detinjaste, zvocave\u2026ra\u010dunam na to.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em>Mehanizam je me\u0161avina privr\u017eenosti, zavisnosti, zavisti i agresivnosti, pri \u010demu se agresivnost istura u prvi plan kroz \u010desto napadanje partnera i obezvre\u0111ivanje njegovih sposobnosti, u\u010dinaka i doprinosa. Zavisnost i zavist se potiskuju (osoba ih nije svesna), i to se posti\u017ee uz pomo\u0107 obezvre\u0111ivanja partnera, nagla\u0161avanja negativnih i potiskivanja pozitivnih emocija prema njemu. Pishodinamska \u201elogika\u201d je, odprilike, ovakva:&nbsp;<em>\u201eNe mogu da podnesem \u0161to zavisim od partnera i \u0161to je on uspe\u0161niji od mene. Ako ga cenim, onda ose\u0107am nepodno\u0161ljivu ambivalenciju izme\u0111u po\u0161tovanja, zahvalnosti i zavisti, izme\u0107u zavisnosti, vezanosti i straha da me ne ostavi\u2026Lak\u0161e mi je kad potisnem pozitivna ose\u0107anja (ali ona i dalje rade iz mog nesvesnog i odr\u017eavaju moju vezanost) i naglasim negativna. Onda se ose\u0107am manje zavisnom, on i nije neki, pa mu i ne zavidim\u2026\u201d<\/em>. Naravno, ovo nisu svesne \u201ekalkulacije\u201d, ve\u0107 nesvesno \u201eemotivno ra\u010dunovodstvo i psiholo\u0161ka matematika\u201d. Ovaj mehanizam ne onemogu\u0107ava sposobnost za ljubav, ali u zna\u010dajnoj meri komplikuje ljubavne odnose. Veoma je \u010dest u dana\u0161njim vezama i brakovima. Partneri mogu da odr\u017eavaju du\u017ee i dublje veze, ali uz redovno me\u0111usobno degradiranje. Ne retko \u010dujemo mi\u0161ljenje da je to \u201enormalna pojava u braku\u201d, \u201e<em>takav je bra\u010dni \u017eivot\u2026postaje\u0161 zavistan od nekoga, on ti postaje navika\u2026ali ga, u isto vreme, i obezvre\u0111uje\u0161\u2026<\/em>\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kada koristimo termin \u201cljubav\u201d ili \u201emr\u017enja\u201c, onda on mo\u017ee da pokriva \u0161iri opseg ose\u0107anja pozitivnog kvaliteta i negativnog kvaliteta. Ljubav uklju\u010duje negu, brigu, zainteresovanost, divljenje, ponos, privr\u017eenost\u2026Tako i termin \u201cmr\u017enja\u201d ne treba posmatrati globalno, ve\u0107 kao jedan kontinuum ose\u0107anja od nedopadanja, nezainteresovanosti, odbojnosti, ljutnje\u2026do mr\u017enje. Slede\u0107i ovaj na\u010din razmi\u0161ljanja, mo\u017eemo govoriti o prethodnicima ili derivatima polarnosti ljubav \u2013 mr\u017enja. Tim derivatima se, kod odraslih osoba, mo\u017ee pripisati koegzistencija ose\u0107anja zavisti i zahvalnosti u relacijama; ili simultana aktivacija \u017eelja da se ceni ili idealizuje neko, sa jedne strane, i da se optu\u017euje ili obezvre\u0111uje sa druge strane. \u010cesta koegzistencija divljenja i straha prema istoj osobi pripada ovde.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mehanizam povr\u0161nosti<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>U ljubavnim odnosima ovu strategiju \u010desto koriste adolescenti, i \u201eve\u010diti adolescenti\u201c. Poznata je i kao \u201ePetar Pan\u201c sindrom. To je taktika \u201elepr\u0161avosti\u201c (\u201eleti sa cveta na scvet, kao leptir\u2026\u201c, \u201evetropir\u201c\u2026). Osnova ove taktike u no\u0161enju sa ambivalencijom je da se ne razvijaju veze u tom intenzitetu u kojem bi se razvila i sna\u017enija ambivalencija. U vezama se ostaje dok su one \u201elake\u201c, dok ne po\u010dnu da bilo \u010dime optere\u0107uju. Kada se to desi, onda se prelazi na drugi \u201ecvet\u201c. Ako osoba sa ovim mehanizmom ostane u nekoj du\u017eoj vezi, obi\u010dno ima \u201enekoga sa strane\u201c, ili nekoliko \u201erezervnih\u201c partnera koji zadovoljavaju ono \u0161to ne zadovoljava partner sa kojim su u \u201ezvani\u010dnoj\u201c vezi. Izbegava se ula\u017eenje u konflikte sa partnerom, a nezadovoljstva koja se javljaju u odnosu sa njim re\u0161avaju se tim \u201edopunskim zadovoljenjima\u201c sa strane.&nbsp;<em>\u201eOno \u0161to ne dobijem od nje (ili njega) dobijem na drugoj strani, i sve je u redu\u201c.&nbsp;<\/em>Osobe sa ovim mehanizmom su \u010desto veoma dru\u017eeljubive i ekstrovertne, vole da oko sebe i partnera imaju \u201eveliko dru\u0161tvo\u201c (da retko budu sami) i time \u201erazvodne\u201c svoj odnos, pretvore ga u \u201ezabavljanje u grupi\u201c, \u0161to im omogu\u0107uje da se ne suo\u010de sa ja\u010dim konfliktom ambivalencije. To je, zapravo, rascepkavanje odnosa na sitne deli\u0107e. Time se dobija pra\u017enjenje tenzije kroz \u201eveliki broj sitnih rupica\u201c, na vi\u0161e kanala, od kojih ni jedan nema dovoljan zna\u010daj. \u201eOd svega po malo, ni od \u010dega dovoljno\u201c strategija. Osoba se ne vezuje za jedan objekt ili delatnost i ne razvija se intenzitet vezanosti koji bi doveo do sna\u017enih emocija ljubavi i mr\u017enje, pa se, tako, izbegava i konflikt ambivalencije.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mehanizam nerazmi\u0161ljanja<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I ovaj mehanizam \u010desto koriste adolescenti, posebno u dana\u0161nje vreme. Nerazmi\u0161ljanje nije isto \u0161to i potiskivanje. Osoba je svesna obe strane svojih ambivalentnih ose\u0107anja ali, kada ona do\u0111u u sukob, problem re\u0161ava tako \u0161to usmeri svoj um na neku tre\u0107u stranu (obi\u010dno je to \u201eblejanje\u201c za kompjuterom, slu\u0161anje muzike, gledanje televizije\u2026)\u2026sa o\u010dekivanjem da \u0107e se \u201estvari nekako re\u0161iti same\u201c. Naj\u010de\u0161\u0107e se taj mehanizam ispoljava u odnosu na obaveze (\u0161kolu, fakultet) tako \u0161to adolescent ne negira va\u017enost i vrednost \u0161kole, prihvata da mu je to potrebno i da \u017eeli uspeh ali, kada treba da radi, ne mo\u017ee da se natera. Onda konflikt re\u0161ava tako \u0161to ne razmi\u0161lja o njemu (o posledicama, lo\u0161im ocenama\u2026). Za razliku od potiskivanja kojim se neki sadr\u017eaji i emocije potiskuju u nesvesno, kod nerazmi\u0161ljanja oni ostaju svesni, ne obezvre\u0111uje se jedna strana (\u201enije mi stalo do toga\u2026\u0161kola je nebitna\u2026\u201c), ne negira se (\u201ene postoji problem\u201c), ve\u0107 se, kada se treba opredeliti, doneti i sprovesti odluku, ne razmi\u0161lja. Um se okupira ne\u010dim tre\u0107im i tako se izbegne neprijatnost konflikta. Obi\u010dno se to izra\u017eava re\u010denicama kao \u0161to su&nbsp;<em>\u201eMa, pusti sada to, ne mogu sada da mislim o tome\u2026\u201c<\/em>, koje se uklju\u010de u situacijama kada ne\u0161to treba sprovesti u delo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sli\u010dne su manifestacije kori\u0161\u0107enja mehanizma nerazmi\u0161ljanja i u ljubavnim odnosima. Osobe sa ovim mehanizmom su u stanju da uvide neke probleme u odnosu, da prepoznaju ili prihvate i svoj doprinos tim problemima. Nisu \u201enedokazane\u201c. Mo\u017ee se dopreti do njih i u stanju su da prepoznaju svoju ambivalenciju, \u201eigrice\u201c koje igraju, manipulacije kojima se koriste\u2026Me\u0111utim, kada uvide treba sprovesti, promeniti ne\u0161to, ulo\u017eiti napor, odre\u0107i se ne\u010dega zarad pobolj\u0161anja situacije i odnosa, oni kao da \u201ezaborave\u201c na sopstvene uvide i ponove isto pona\u0161anje. U tom trenutku ne razmi\u0161ljaju u problemu, ve\u0107 \u201eteraju po starom\u201c jer im je tako lak\u0161e. Ambivalencija se ispoljava kao otpor promenama koje zahtevaju napor. Takve osobe \u201eznaju da bi trebalo da ne\u0161to promene i da bi to bilo dobro\u201c, ali je to naporno i \u201ene mogu da nateraju sebe\u2026\u201c. Uglavnom je osnova kori\u0161\u0107enja tog mehanizma unutra\u0161nji zahtev da \u017eivot i sve u njemu mora da bude udobno i lako. Naj\u010de\u0161\u0107e taj mehanizam razvijaju preza\u0161ti\u0107ena deca oko kojih se roditelji okre\u0107u kao oko centra gravitacije i gu\u0161e ih brigom i zvocanjem. Mo\u017eemo re\u0107i da su to \u201ekorimpirana\u201c deca i adolescenti. Daje im se puni komfor, ali i spre\u010dava odvajanje. Komfor im prija, ali zavisnot i gu\u0161enje ne. Po\u0161to znaju da \u0107e roditelji brinuti o svemu (pa i o njihovim obavezama), mogu da koriste mehanizam nerazmi\u0161ljanja (<em>\u201eneko \u0107e misliti o tome\u2026opomenu\u0107e me na obaveze, izvaditi fleke ako zapne\u2026\u201c<\/em>). Iako im komfor i neodgovornost prijaju, sa jedne strane, ose\u0107aju da su razma\u017eeni, zavisni, i nedovoljno sposobni za \u017eivotne borbe, \u0161to ra\u0111a bunt prema roditeljima ili partneru sa kojim grade sli\u010dnu vrstu odnosa (Na\u0111u partnera koji preuzima odgovornost umesto njih, ili nastave da se \u201ezabavljaju u braku\u201c, tako \u0161to ve\u0107inu obaveza oko dece preuzimaju roditelji jednog ili oba supru\u017enika, a partneri nastoje da ne promene mnogo stil \u017eivota i da \u017eive kao adolescenti).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mehanizmi povr\u0161nosti i nerazmi\u0161ljanja su \u201eblagodet\u201c adolescencije u no\u0161enju sa ambivalencijom (jer tada je detetu dostupan ve\u0107i broj objekata za povr\u0161no vezivanje, ne samo roditelji) i oni predstavljaju lak na\u010din rastere\u0107enja i izbegavanja konflikta ambivalencije. Me\u0111utim, preterano kori\u0161\u0107enje i zloupotreba mehanizma povr\u0161nosti i nerazmi\u0161ljanja dovode do toga da veliki broj adolescenata ne razvija sposobnost tolerancije na ambivalenciju i kada do\u0111e vreme za \u201eozbiljne stvari\u201c kao \u0161to su izbor profesije, fakultet, posao, trajna veza, brak, deca\u2026nisu u stanju da se opredele, donesu odluke i stvarno se posvete ne\u010demu. U tim periodima razvoja, kada \u017eivot zahteva produbljivanje, posve\u0107ivanje i odluke, sve ve\u0107i broj mladih se suo\u010dava sa napadima panike (ili potpuno negira potrebu za razvojem). Te \u201cozbiljne stvari\u201d, veza, posao, brak, deca\u2026zahtevaju razvijenu sposobnost da se podnosi frustracija i ambivalenta ose\u0107anja koje frustracija izaziva. Verujemo da je to i naj\u010de\u0161\u0107a posledica sve ve\u0107eg broja razvoda brakova, nesposobnost podno\u0161enja ambivalencije koja je nu\u017eni sastojak svakog ljudskog odnosa. Zar nije lak\u0161e zaljubljivati se svaki \u010das, i \u017eiveti u tome dok traje pozitivna strana koju proizvodi idealizacija, a onda prekinuti pre nego \u0161to ambivalencija naraste, i na\u0107i novi objekt za idealizaciju? Ili ne ulaziti u odnose sa intenzivnijim emocijama? Znamo, me\u0111utim, da kori\u0161\u0107enje lak\u0161ih re\u0161enja dovodi do stagnacije i zastoja u razvoju. Napomenuli smo ve\u0107 da razvoj boli, i da je podno\u0161enje tog bola cena razvoja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u017divljenje u ambivalenciji, bez njenog razre\u0161avanja, kao egzistencijalni otpor prema \u017eivotu, izaziva ose\u0107anje da je \u017eivot prete\u017eak, da je osoba uvhva\u0107ena zahtevima \u017eivota koje ne \u017eeli da prihvati, do ose\u0107anja uhva\u0107enosti i klaustofobi\u010dnosti u vezama, braku, uzgajanju dece\u2026u svim obavezama i odgovornostima koje \u017eivot sa sobom nosi.&nbsp;Takve individue su se identifikovale sa obe polarne suprotnosti&nbsp;ambivalencije&nbsp;i sam njihov identitet zavisi od odr\u017eavanja obe. Oni mogu videti razre\u0161avanje ambivalencije kao ekvivalent gubljenju dela sebe.Njihov&nbsp;ego identitet je obojen odlaganjem, uklju\u010den u stalno aktivno posezanje za odre\u0111enim ciljevima i vrednostima koje bi vodile njihov \u017eivot, ali bez realizacije. Odbijanje da se ne\u010demu posvete, odbijanje privr\u017eenosti, \u010dini nemogu\u0107im formiranje \u010dvrstog identiteta. Oni flertuju sa \u017eivotom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Spominjali smo u ranijem tekstu ambivalentno preokupirani obrazac afektivnog vezivanja. Normalno se gubitak koji osoba pre\u017eivi \u201ele\u010di\u201c kroz proces \u017ealjenja, tugovanja. Ambivalentno-preokupirane osobe kod svakog zna\u010dajnog gubitka pokazuju \u201ehroni\u010dno tugovanje\u201c (Bowlby, 1980), koje je karakteristi\u010dno po produ\u017eenom tugovanju i nemogu\u0107no\u0161\u0107u da se vrate na normalno funkcionisanje. Taj obrazac se razvija kod ambivalentne dece koja postaju ekstremno uznemirena prilikom odvajanja, ali se ne umiruju kada se majka vrati. Nesigurno ambivalentna deca pokazuju separacionu uznemirenost i tra\u017ee bliskost i ponovno spajanje ali, umesto da se smire u naru\u010dju majke, ona se vrpolje, ponekada udaraju ili se zaka\u010de anksiozno za majku.&nbsp;Uo\u010dene su dve subgrupe takve dece: ona koja postaju besna i druga pasivnija. Generalno, deca se ne vra\u0107aju igri. Ona se orijenti\u0161u na majku (ili nekoga ko ih podi\u017ee) umesto na okolinu i igru, ali ne nalaze umirenje u njenom prisustvu. Takva deca slabo reguli\u0161u svoje afekte i organizovana su (nesvesno) oko toga da im prisustvo roditelja bude zagarantovano. Impulsivno ispoljavaju uznemirenost. Nau\u010dila su da glasno ispoljavaju svoje zahteve, ili da se pona\u0161aju bebasto, kako bi dobila pa\u017enju. Tako se poja\u010dava zahtevno pona\u0161anje.&nbsp;<strong>Za razliku od izbegavaju\u0107eg obrasca, anksiozno ambivalentna deca ne negiraju svoja ose\u0107anja, ali ne misle mnogo o posledicama svojih akcija. Pona\u0161aju se impulsivno i ne promi\u0161ljaju zna\u010denje svojih iskustava. To ih odr\u017eava u kontaktu sa sredinom ali, za razliku od izbegavatelja, oni nastavljaju da ose\u0107aju intenzivnu potrebu za socijalnom podr\u0161kom. Me\u0111utim, kad je dobiju, oni te\u017ee da ponove svoju uznemiriju\u0107u vezu sa primarnim objektom i ose\u0107aju se neshva\u0107enima i lo\u0161e tretiranima<\/strong>. Logi\u010dki argumenti imaju malo uticaja na prilago\u0111avanje njihovih o\u010dekivanja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sli\u010dan obrazac mo\u017eemo primetiti i u ljubavnim odnosima odraslih osoba sa ambivalentno preokupiranim obrascem afektivnog vezivanja.&nbsp;Kao odrasle osobe, ambivalentna deca postaju samovoljni adolescenti i, kasnije, odrasle osobe koje tra\u017ee negu, ali nalaze samo delimi\u010dna i povremena zadovoljenja od kontakta.&nbsp;<strong>Preokupirano ambivalentne osobe su anksiozne, zavisne, impulsivne, stalno tra\u017ee odobravanje. U ekstremima postaju histeri\u010dne li\u010dnosti ili li\u010dnosti grani\u010dne organizacije.&nbsp;<\/strong>Oni su prezahtevni partneri koje je nemogu\u0107e zadovoljiti. Stalno \u0107e tra\u017eiti prisustvo partnera, konakt sa njim, negu i pa\u017enju\u2026ali, kada je dobiju, ne umiruju se, zanovetaju, prebacuju, koriste trenutke komunikacije za sva\u0111u i raspravu, umesto za zajedni\u010dke trenutke u\u017eivanja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kao roditelji, pokazuju sli\u010dan obrazac.&nbsp;Roditelji&nbsp;dece koja pokazuju ambivalentni obrazac se, uglavnom, lo\u0161e prilago\u0111avaju potrebama deteta. \u010cesto ga ignori\u0161u kada je uznemireno i upli\u0107u se i ometaju ga kada se sadr\u017eajno igra. Takvi roditelji nude isprekidanu i nekonzistentnu roditeljsku negu. Kada se roditelj ose\u0107a smirenim, on na dete reaguje senzitivno, kada je ljut, on ispoljava to otvoreno kroz viku ili mo\u017eda i batine. Roditelj odgovara na svoj interno konzistentan na\u010din koji je, na \u017ealost,&nbsp;<strong>nepredvidljiv<\/strong>&nbsp;bilo kome drugom, pa \u010dak i treniranim psiholozima koji posmatraju takvu interakciju (kako bi tek dete moglo da predvidi pona\u0161anje takvog roditelja). Dete se ose\u0107a bespomo\u0107nim da kontroli\u0161e ili predvidi sopstveno iskustvo jer su odgovori roditelja kapriciozni, ili podr\u017eavaju\u0107i ili neprijateljski. Bliskost koju ponekada postignu sa roditeljima je pod pretnjom promene raspolo\u017eenja i ka\u017enjavanja, pa su deca u trajnom stanju anksioznosti i ljutine. Povremena potkrepljenja okretanja ka roditeljskoj figuri za dobijanje sigurnosti pra\u0107ena su potrebom da se bude stalno budan i oprezan po pitanju prisutnosti ili gubitka drugog. Poverenje deteta u sopstvene sposobnosti da iza\u0111e na kraj sa ugor\u017eavaju\u0107im situacijama se razvija slabo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u010cesto se takvi roditelji pona\u0161aju&nbsp;<strong>preza\u0161ti\u0107uju\u0107e<\/strong>&nbsp;<strong>kada dete ispoljava strah i razvijaju preteranu zavisnost deteta.<\/strong>&nbsp;Odre\u0111eni nivo dopu\u0161tanja detetu da samo iza\u0111e na kraj sa izvesnim strahovima i napetostima je neophodan da bi se razvila autonomija deteta i kapacitet da bude samo. Kroz preza\u0161ti\u0107ivanje, roditelji ambivalentne dece spre\u010davaju istra\u017eivanje, eksperimentisanje i ve\u017ebanje samoregulacije. Takva deca obi\u010dno nisu u skladu sa svojim uzrastom. Detinjasta su (za svoj uzrast) i \u010desto prezahtevna, kao mali odrasli ljudi. Prekupirani potrebama za kontaktom i pa\u017enjom, bez obzira na to da li je pozitivna ili negativna,&nbsp;<strong>ambivalentna deca, zahtevna i ljuta, ve\u0107 na pred\u0161kolskom uzrastu nau\u010de da manipuli\u0161u roditeljima smenjivanjem dramati\u010dnih ljutitih zahteva sa zavisno\u0161\u0107u.<\/strong>&nbsp;Ona otkriju efektivne na\u010dine da dr\u017ee nepa\u017eljive i nekonzstentne roditelje uklju\u010denima tako \u0161to rade suprotno od onoga \u0161to majka radi. Kada je majka preokupirana i ne obra\u0107a pa\u017enju, dete eksplodira u ljutitim zahtevima i takvo pona\u0161anje se ne mo\u017ee ignorisati. Majka \u0107e reagovati ili neprijateljstvnom i ka\u017enjavanjem, ili simpatijama, potkrepljuju\u0107i detetovu manipulaciju. Ta deca znaju \u0161ta treba da urade u oba slu\u010daja: odgovaraju na neprijateljstvo tako \u0161to postaju slatka i zavisna, ili na simpatiju tako \u0161to postaju ljutita i imaju nove zahteve\u2026\u0161to stvara beskrajni, neprekidni krug nezadovoljstva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Tabela 28\u2013Tolerancija na ambivalenciju (usmeriva\u010d psihe) i sposobnost za ljubav<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Ispoljavanja razvijene sposobnosti -<\/strong> osoba je u stanju da podnosi opre\u010dna ose\u0107anja prema objektu ljubavi, ne negira ih, ne potiskuje, ne pomera na druge. Podno\u0161enje opre\u010dnih ose\u0107anja omogu\u0107ava dovodi je do sposobnosti da \u201eprelomi\u201c, da se odredi i opredeli, i postupa u skladu sa tim opredeljenjem. Njeni ljubavni odnosi su realisti\u010dni, osoba zna \u0161ta ho\u0107e, pona\u0161a se asertivno.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-table\"><table><tbody><tr><td><strong>Ispoljavanja nerazvijene sposobnosti:<\/strong><br><br>Osoba je konfuzna oko svojih emocija, ne zna \u0161ta ho\u0107e, ne mo\u017ee da se opredeli, odlu\u010di. Njene aktivnosti su kontradiktorne, odnosi nerealni, rastrzani-izra\u017eeno ambivalentni.<br><br><strong>Mehanizmi koji po\u010divaju na cepanju:<\/strong><br><br><strong>Mehanizam \u201edva u jedan\u201c-<\/strong>U ljubavnom odnosu&nbsp;<strong>osobe sa ovakvom odbranom i ne prime\u0107uju da povre\u0111uju one koje vole.&nbsp;<\/strong>Ne postoji svesnost da ima agresije u na\u010dinu ispoljavanja ljubavi. Nema ose\u0107anja krivice.<br><br><strong>Temporalni spliting (cepanje u vremenu)&nbsp;<\/strong>\u2013 suprotna ose\u0107anja su podeljena u vremenu: \u201cjedan dan volim, drugi dan mrzim. U ljubavnom \u017eivotu su to partneri sa kojima nikada ne znate \u201ena koju nogu su ustali\u201c, da li je danas dan kada vas vole ili dan kada vas mrze. \u010cesto partneri ovakvih osoba prime\u0107uju neke pravilnosti u njihovoj smeni emocija. Oni kao da \u201emoraju da mrze da bi mogli da vole\u201c.<br><br>\u2013<strong>\u201eDefanzivni spliting\u201c&nbsp;<\/strong>\u2013 projekcija jedne strane ambivalencije na tre\u0107u osobu. Kod ovakvog na\u010dina odbrane od ambivalencije, u ljubavnim odnosima, ni jedna osoba ne dobija realna ose\u0107anja, ono \u0161to zaslu\u017euje. Ako se pomeraju pozitivna ose\u0107anja, partner dobija ono najgore, a pozitivne emocije koje su deo ambivalencije prema njemu dobije neko drugi. Ako se pomeraju negativna, onda osoba koja je predmet ambivalencije dobija nerealno pozitivne emocije, a njegove \u201egrehe\u201c (mane) ispa\u0161ta neko drugi na kojega su pomerene.<br><br><strong>Mehanizmi koji po\u010divaju na potiskivanju<\/strong><br><br><strong>Potiskivanje negativnih emocija:<\/strong>&nbsp;kada se potiskujunegativne emocije, to se \u010desto&nbsp;<strong>ispoljava kao preterana briga za sigurnost i dobrobit voljene osobe.&nbsp;<\/strong>U ljubavnim odnosima takvi partneri umeju da budu bri\u017eni dave\u017ei, da ugu\u0161e pa\u017enjom i brigom (\u0161to ukazuje na potisnutu negativnu stranu ambivalencije). Kao roditelji, tako\u0111e, umeju da budu toliko po\u017ertvovani i uslu\u017eni, da onemogu\u0107avaju odvajanje dece i \u010dine da se deca ose\u0107aju kao da \u201eodrastaju pod staklenim zvonom\u201d.<br><br><strong>Potiskivanje pozitivnih emocija: k<\/strong>od potiskivanja pozitivne strane i reaktivnog isticanja negativne osoba ostaje vezana za partnera, ali joj je te\u0161ko da prihvati njegove pozitivne osobine. Vrlo \u010desto ovaj mehanizam koriste osobe koje ose\u0107aju zavisnost u odnosu na partnera, ali im je te\u0161ko da priznaju sopstvenu zavisnost. \u0160to su vi\u0161e zavisne, sve su agrsivnije prema partneru. Mehanizam je me\u0161avina privr\u017eenosti, zavisnosti, zavisti i agresivnosti, pri \u010demu se agresivnost istura u prvi plan kroz \u010desto napadanje partnera i obezvre\u0111ivanje njegovih sposobnosti, u\u010dinaka i doprinosa.<br><br><strong>Mehanizam povr\u0161nosti:&nbsp;<\/strong>U ljubavnim odnosima ovu strategiju \u010desto koriste adolescenti, i \u201eve\u010diti adolescenti\u201c. Poznata je i kao \u201ePetar Pan\u201c sindrom. To je taktika \u201elepr\u0161avosti\u201c (\u201eleti sa cveta na scvet, kao leptir\u2026\u201c, \u201evetropir\u201c\u2026). Osnova ove taktike u no\u0161enju sa ambivalencijom je da se ne razvijaju veze u tom intenzitetu u kojem bi se razvila i sna\u017enija ambivalencija. U vezama se ostaje dok su one \u201elake\u201c, dok ne po\u010dnu da bilo \u010dime optere\u0107uju. Kada se to desi, onda se prelazi na drugi \u201ecvet\u201c. Ako osoba sa ovim mehanizmom ostane u nekoj du\u017eoj vezi, obi\u010dno ima \u201enekoga sa strane\u201c, ili nekoliko \u201erezervnih\u201c partnera koji zadovoljavaju ono \u0161to ne zadovoljava partner sa kojim su u \u201ezvani\u010dnoj\u201c vezi. Izbegava se ula\u017eenje u konflikte sa partnerom, a nezadovoljstva koja se javljaju u odnosu sa njim re\u0161avaju se tim \u201edopunskim zadovoljenjima\u201c sa strane.Osobe sa ovim mehanizmom su \u010desto veoma dru\u017eeljubive i ekstrovertne, vole da oko sebe i partnera imaju \u201eveliko dru\u0161tvo\u201c (da retko budu sami) i time \u201erazvodne\u201c svoj odnos, pretvore ga u \u201ezabavljanje u grupi\u201c, \u0161to im omogu\u0107uje da se ne suo\u010de sa ja\u010dim konfliktom ambivalencije.<br><br><strong>Mehanizam nerazmi\u0161ljanja:&nbsp;<\/strong>Nerazmi\u0161ljanje nije isto \u0161to i potiskivanje. Osoba je svesna obe strane svojih ambivalentnih ose\u0107anja ali, kada ona do\u0111u u sukob, problem re\u0161ava tako \u0161to usmeri svoj um na neku tre\u0107u stranu sa o\u010dekivanjem da \u0107e se \u201estvari nekako re\u0161iti same\u201c. Osobe sa ovim mehanizmom su u stanju da uvide neke probleme u odnosu, da prepoznaju ili prihvate i svoj doprinos tim problemima. Nisu \u201enedokazane\u201c. Mo\u017ee se dopreti do njih i u stanju su da prepoznaju svoju ambivalenciju, \u201eigrice\u201c koje igraju, manipulacije kojima se koriste\u2026Me\u0111utim, kada uvide treba sprovesti, promeniti ne\u0161to, ulo\u017eiti napor, odre\u0107i se ne\u010dega zarad pobolj\u0161anja situacije i odnosa, oni kao da \u201ezaborave\u201c na sopstvene uvide i ponove isto pona\u0161anje. U tom trenutku ne razmi\u0161ljaju u problemu, ve\u0107 \u201eteraju po starom\u201c jer im je tako lak\u0161e. 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